NATURE CURE

Tuesday, August 2, 2011

Some important facts to know about love on this valentine's day.

You may wondering what kind of wierd topic on this blog like Valentine's day, As my blog title it For a complete person for compelete education, Yes so you need to know about the love(means what is meant by real love) . In general there nothing like real love, there is only one love exists thats love itself only. There no false love, since it not love,

So here are some secrets of love from yoga. Love exist every where, don't limit to only lust. If don't have a boy or girl friend on valentine' s day then there is no need to dishearten your heart has the greatest lover the God in you. Give the love to him for all tho love he offered him all the time.

Ok then what is love ?What role it plays in yoga?

love is the greatest force which brings about contact , concentration and union,. Love is easily transferable. a baby's love toward its mother in later years, gets transfered to his playmates, then to his wife and later to his children. No, transference of spiritual ove to god is called yoga. This yoga is easy because transference of love and thoughts does not require any austerities.

Folds of love

love is something diviene and most essetnial for man's happiness. If man's relations become estranged or strained, there is tension. BUt we find that in many cases, this love is misdirected or perverted. Let us suppose that there is a married couple . it is expected that they are on cordial relations and are faithful in their matrimonial relations . Howeverm an element of infidelity is observed in these relations also these days. This is not unusual but has become more and more common with the passage of time. The young ones are left uncared form the home no longer remains a home and this in turn, has numerous other serious consequences. There is a bad effect on the children, due to the absence of parental love something is left wanting within the mind of the child and he seeks other mens of getting lover or manifesting it. Many children take to lascivious behaviour in thier adolescence. so the number of unwanted children is increasing daily, together with the cases of abortions and illicit relations, beginnning at an ever-younger age. The birth of the hippie cult and the drug addiction may also be traced to lack of parental love at home.
The solutin to all these problems is to forge a metal link or love bond with God, whose love towars human beings is spontaneous, absolutely unblemished, unselfish, and is the love o a mother, Father friend and guide all in one. IT is the only kind of love which elevates the person who recieves it. unlucky is the person who misses the kind of love in his life. There are eight qualities, when observed in a person, consciously or subconsciously , arouse love towards him. These eight qulaities are:1loveliness 2. a feeling of belongingness 3. Virtues 4. Energetic 5. Thrilling nature 6. Harmony 7. Eternal love and 8) Easy going nature.
If all these factors are not present at least some of these are noticed consciouslu or subconsciously before one comes to love a particular person. We do not mean that one makes a special effort to discover these qualities and then love is born out of some of these qualities, either all at once or over a period, and then love ocmes into play.
Deep thinking reveals that all these qualities are in fact found in God at their climax. One gets them in full measure from God if one fosters a love-bond with him, but that object can be a achieved only if one truly understands what I stand for. For the relationship with
Deep thinking reveals that all these qualities are in fact found in God at their climax. One gets them in full measure from God if one fostersa love-bond with Him, But that object can be achieved only one truly understand what 'I' stands for . for the relationship with God is as between a Soul and the Supreme Soul.

Motive of love

Dr.VS.Suresh Phd., Email :bksureshv@gmail.com

"True love has no motives".

Love is a great feeling of ultimate pleasure. Love reflects in care. Love is care and consideration. First of all we have to love ourselves without loving our self(athman) we can't love any creature .If some one is loving any other creature more than himself that is not a true love, it is only an objective love. It's not real at any time it may vanish. Love is care, take care of yourself and then love takes care of all the creature. That is the only thing one can do and remaining will follows itself.

"Duty is seldom sweet. It is only when love greases it wheels that it runs smoothly; it is continuous fricition otherwise".

Duty is the only a activity we have in these world you are recognised or remembered by your duty and how well you performed it. Take care(love ) of it . Love and care is same but appears to be different in life and even english dictionary. Love is hidden in Care. If love something we take care of it. Love is the cause and care is the effect .

"If we take care of some one even your enemy he will definitely change that is the power of love".

The reason behind the pleasure of love

In every activity we do expect something in return or result of our work. But in love its a magic its the result in itself. When we are loving we are giving the care and we are experience the result in the same time. We are geting the result in no time.Love is not expecting some thing in return i.e the reason behind the pleasure of love.

When we are caring something we are only caring it or proctecting it in return we are not expecting anything we just care or protect it and we are doing and geting the result in same time What a fantastic feeling of enjoying the result.

" Love appears as alliance, but begins in deep solitude".

Love appears as relationship but begins in deep solitude. The source of love is not in relating, the source of love is in meditating. When you are absolutely happy in your aloneness, when you don’t need the other at all, when the other is not a need, then you are capable of love. If the other is your need you can only exploit, manipulate, dominate, but you cannot love. You create a bondage around the person you think you love. But love cannot create a prison, love gives freedom. But that is possible only if you have known a totally different quality of love: not of need but of sharing.

Love towards Allah( Islamic Love)

All Religions have it's own view about love.Now days it is so common that the meaning of love has been restricted in the modern age to the love relationship between a man and a woman. This is a very narrow-minded view of love. Islam has is own comprehensive view of love.

The first type of love that Islam calls for is the Love of Allah, praise be to Him. This love makes you avoid committing sins in order not to make whom you love, Allah, get angry with you. This love also urges you to contemplate all the different aspect of nature that usually lead you to have a deeper faith in the Creator who created all this beauty round us.

The second type of love is the love of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). This love also makes you follow the example of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) in all his dealings and manners. Also this love is an indication of the love of Allah as stated in the Holy Qur'an, "Say: 'If you do love Allah, Follow me: Allah will love you and forgive you your sins: For Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.'" Say: "Obey Allah and His Messenger: But if they turn back, Allah loves not those who reject Faith." (Qur'an, 3:31-32)

The third type of love is human love. It means that the Muslim has to love his other fellow men regardless of their ethnic, linguistic or cultural background. This includes love of neighbors, colleagues, relatives and even strangers. This type of love persuades the Muslim to help anybody whenever he can. There are numerous of Ahadith that exhort Muslims to help anybody who really needs help because such an altruistic act takes the Muslim one step closer to Allah.
The fourth type of love is the love between a man and a woman, but Islam organizes and regulates these lofty feelings within the framework of marriage because Islam views that marital love leads the couple to have a peaceful and happy family life, which is the core of the Muslim society.

In other words, this love is acceptable as long as it is within the framework of marriage and this is encouraged in a number of verses in the Holy Qur'an, "And among His signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put affection and mercy between you: verily in that are indeed signs for those who reflect: (Qur'an, 30:21)

60 ISLAMIC WAYS TO KEEP THE LOVE OF YOUR WIFE.

Dr.VS.Suresh Phd., Email:bksureshv@gmail.com

This one of the Forwarded My mail which Came into My Inbox .

Please read the following and try to make a habit as an exersise for your good MENTAL as well for physical health and enjoy a happly life of course with in boundaries.

60 ISLAMIC WAYS TO KEEP THE LOVE OF YOUR WIFE.

1.Make her feel secure; (sakina- tranquility) QUIT BEING AGGRESSIVE

2. When you go home say 'Assalmualikum.(Greetings) It kicks the shaitaan out of home!

3. Prophet (saw) described the wife as a fragile vessel and said to take care of this vessel thats fragile. Remember that there is goodness in this vessel so treat it gently.

4. When you advise her, do so in privacy, in a peaceful environment. NOT IN PUBLIC.

5. Be generous to your wife- it keeps her LOVED

6. Move and let her have your seat. It will warm her heart.

7. AVIOD ANGER. HOW? Keep your wudu at all times. Prophet saw said if your angry, sit down, if youre sitting, then lie down. Follow the sunnah!

8. Look good and smell great for your wife. IT keeps the LOVE!

9. Dont be rigid. It will break you. Prophet Mohammed - Sallal lahu Aleihi Wasallam (SAW means “May the blessings and the peace of Allah be upon him (Muhammad).) said 'I am the best amongst you and I am the best to my wife'. Being rigid and harsh will not bring you close to Allah and neither does it make you more of a man.

10. Listen to your wife-BE a GOOD LISTENER

11. YES to flattering NO to arguing. Arguing is like poison in a marriage. Al zawai said 'When Allah (swt) wants evil for people He will leave them to argue amongst them'.

12. Prophet (saw) said to call your wives with the best name, any name she loves to hear.

13. Give her surprise. I.e. if she loves watermelon, bring her out of the blue, will grow love in her heart.

14. Preserve your tongue! Prophet (saw) said the tongue will throw people in the hell fire so watch what you say and how you say it!

15. We all have shortcoming. Accept her shortcoming and Allah (swt) will put barakh in your marriage.

16. TELL her you appreciate her. SHOW her you appreciate her.

17. Encourage her to keep good relation with her relative, her mum and dad etc.

18. Speak with her with a topic of HER interest.

19. In front of her relative praise her. Say that she is wonderful/ good person in front of her family.

20. Give each other gifts. You will love each other more. Prophet (saw) said gifts increases love.

21. Get rid of routine once in while, surprise her with something, it will get rid of the rust and polish it!

22.We have a demand from Allah (swt) that we have to think good of people. Think good of your spouse.

23. Ignore some of her mistakes- pretend you did not see/hear some of her small mistakes. It was a practice of Ali (RA). Its like putting a hole in your memory. Dont save it in your memory!

24. Increase your patience, especially when she is pregnant or when she is on her monthly period.

25. Expect and respect her jealousy.

26. Be humble and respect that she is looking after your children, she is much more than you, she is the leader at home, her strength is your strength, and her success is your successes.

27. Don't put your friends above your wife.

28. Help your wife at home. Prophet (saw) used to help his wives at home and he was the best of creation. He used to sew his own clothes.

29. Help her respect your parents, you cant force her , but she can be helped to gradually love them.

30. Show your wife she is the ideal wife.

31. Remember your wife in your Duaas. It will increase the love and protect it.

32. Leave the past. It gives nothing but pain. Its not your business. The past is for Allah.

33. Don't try to show her that you are doing her a favour by doing something, like buying food for the house, because in reality we are the courier of sustenance, not the providers, as Allah is the provider. Its also a way of being humble and thankful to Allah (swt)

34. Shaitaan is your enemy, not your wife. Sometime when husband and wife are talking a fight breaks out, then shaitaan is present there as a third person It is not enough to hate the shaitaan, but you have to see him as an enemy as Allah has commanded. Shaitaan loves divorce. HE comes everyday and sits office and asks the devils what they have done, And one devil will say i have made a man divorce his wife, and he is crowned as the one who has done the best job.

35. Take the food and put it in her mouth. Prophet (saw) taught us this. Its a blessing. The food doesnt just go to her stomach, but straight to her heart. It increases the love and mercy between you.

36. Protect your wife from the evil of the shaitaan and mankind. She is like a precious pearl that needs protecting from the envy of human devils and shitaan.

37. Show her your smile. Smile at your wife. ITS A CHARITY.

38. Small problems/ challenges can become a big problem. If there is small thing she didn't like and you keep repeating them anyway, it will create a wall between you. Dont ignore them as it can become big.

39. Avoid being harsh hearted and moody. Allah said of prophet (saw) 'if you were harsh hearted they (the companions) would have left you.' It confirms prophet (saw) was not harsh hearted, so GET RID OF IT.

40. Respect her thinking. Its strength for you. Show you like her thoughts and suggestions.

41. Help her to achieve her potential and help her and find success within as her success is your success.

42. Respect the intimate relationship and its boundaries. Prophet (saw) said she is like a fragile vessel and she needs be treated tenderly. At time she may not be feeling well; you must respect and appreciate that feeling.

43. Help her to take care of the children. Some men think it makes them appear less of a man but in fact it makes you appear a bigger man and more respected, especially in the sight of Allah (swt).

44. Use the gifts of the tongue and sweet talk her. Tell her she looks great, be an artist. Pick and choose gifts of the tongue.

45. Sit down and eat with her and share food with her.

46. Let her know you are traveling. Don't tell her out of the blue as its against Islam. Tell her the date/ time of when you are coming back also.

47. Don't leave the house as soon as trouble brews.

48. The house has privacy and secrecy. Once you take this privacy and secrecy to your friends and family you are in danger of putting a serious hole in your marriage. This secrecy stays home. Islam is against leaving them out like a garage sale for anyone to come and pick and choose.

49. Encourage each other for ibadah, i.e. plan a trip for hajj or umrah together. It increases/strengthens the love when you help each other perform a good deeds together i.e, do tahajuud together,or go to a dars together etc.

50. Know her rights, not only written in paper but engraved in your heart and engraved in your conscious.

51. Allah( swt) said 'live with your wives in kindness.' Treat them with kindness and goodness. It means in happy times and in sadness treat her with goodness and fairness.

52. Prophet (saw) showed that at the time of intimacy. Dont jump on your wife like an animal!

53. When you have a dispute with your wife dont tell everyone. Its like leaving your wounds open to germs so be careful who you share your problems and disputes with.

54. Show your wife you really care for her health. Good health of your wife is your good health. To care for her health shows her that you love her.

55. Dont think you are always right. No matter how good you are you have shortcomings. You are not perfect as the only one who was perfect in character was prophet (saw). Get rid of this disease.

56. Share your problems, your happiness, and your sadness with her.

57. Have mercy on her weakness. Have mercy when she is weak or strong as she is the fragile vessel. Prophet (saw) said that your wife is a trust in your hand.

58. Remember you are her strength, someone to lean on in times of hardship.

59. Accept her as she is. Prophet (saw) said that women are created from the rib which is bent. If you try to straighten her you will break her (divorce). Prophet (saw) said that you may dislike one habit in her but you will like another manner in her so accept her as she is.

60. Have good intention for your wife all the time, Allah monitors your intention and your heart at all times. Allah (s.w.t) said Among His Signs is that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.

May Allah fill our homes and heart with tranquility, love and Mercy. AMEEN

Happiness In Marriage(Bliss)

Happiness In Marriage

Marriage is the most important and most enjoyable of all human relationships. It is the true basis of all family life. No one should ever enter into marriage thoughtlessly. Too much is at stake. Far too many people are unhappily married because of hasty decisions. True marital happiness requires that both husband and wife be well matched in mind and body, and that they be compatible and easy to get along with. It always takes two people to make a successful marriage, but one alone can spoil it through neglect or selfishness.

Setting up a new home is a great adventure for all who are young at heart. There are so many things to see and do and so many pleasures to enjoy together. Most thrilling of all is the privilege and enjoyment of a normal sex relationship. Nothing contributes more to a smooth running home than this. On the other hand, nothing seems to cause more trouble than failure in this normal part of human experience . Men and women who are not prepared to understand this simple fact had better not enter into marriage for they are likely to be very disappointed.

Importance of Sex

This is the highest expression of physical love that human beings can enjoy, A satisfactory sex relationship. Among most of the lower animals this does not appear to be true. In them the sex instinct apparently has only one purpose – that of reproduction, whatever the cost. And once their offspring have reached physical maturity the parents generally feel no further responsibility. The family relationship then breaks up; the parents may separate and not even recognize their young after they are full grown.

Not so in the human family, Here things are very different.. The young human not only grows slowly, but develop a mind with reasoning power. Because of this slow growth, a human family must be kept together as a unit for the proper training of the children. A broken home is always a tragedy. It is certainly not an ideal place in which to have a child grow up, but there are times when it might be preferable to a home in which the parents are continually quarrelling . Children who have lost one parent often turn out fat better than those who have grown up in a home constantly torn with strife and anger.

Marriage does not solve all the problems of life by any means. Take a good look at the people around you. How many of them are really happy? Some may appear carefree and light-hearted, but underneath there is often a feeling of loneliness, of having missed the best things in life . This is often true of married people. Many of these people were far from happy before they were married. Some of them entered into matrimony only in the hope that it would solve their problems, But marriage rarely solves major personality problems.

Marriage is for Mature People

It is highly important for both husband and wife to be mature in mind before they enter into marriage .Many unhappy people are sick both in mind and body. Some immaturely take to their feelings on others, becoming spiteful, cantankerous, unreasonable and harsh in their attitude toward life.

Others turn their frustrated feelings upon themselves producing ulcers, high blood pressure, tension Headaches, Indigestion, and many other unhappy symptoms. They are constantly troubled with nervous complaints. Their diseases may appear different, but the underlying cause is often the same. Their problems began during early childhood. They are constantly struggling with various emotions. Many wear themselves out trying to settle problems for which there may be no solution. How did they get this way? Often because of misunderstandings between their parents.

Some of these unhappy individuals felt unwanted during their early years. Perhaps they were unhappy because someone else was the favourite child of the family. Such situations always lead to unhappiness and frustration with life. It doesn’t take long for a child to feel neglected and unwanted. How then can he help feeling lonely sad and depressed?

Most family problems start first of all with the parents..If they are argumentative and have divergent viewpoints, there is bound to be trouble. If the parents undermine each other in the esteem of their children, they can expect unhappiness. The trouble is often due to one or the other parent not having fully grown up, with the result that one is happy. No one should consider marriage unless he or she is already a mature adult. This is most important. A mature mind and a wholesome attitude will go a long way in preventing serious trouble in the home.

Avoiding Quarrels

Whenever something seems to be going wrong, it is wise to bring the problem out into the open for a frank discussion. The sooner this is done, the better. This will prevent the development of serious resentments that only make the situation worse and might in the end destroy the home. Never allow yourself to brood over slights and irritations that can and should be corrected. Talk these problems over with your wife or husband and the forget them. Constant harping over unhappy episodes in the past will only lead to further trouble.

One must also avoid the temptation to become too ambitious. It is true that a wife can do much to help her husband, but she must realize that even she cannot change his whole personality. Many women have made the serious mistake of urging their husbands on to activities that are really beyond their capacity .Their only reason is to satisfy some foolish ambition. It is far better for a man to be happy and satisfied in his work than to overreach himself and perhaps ruin his health and future by trying to live up to un reasonable haps ruin his health and future by trying to live up to unreasonable standards. Many a woman has become a widow because her husband has worn himself out trying to meet her demands for things the family could not afford.

The woman’s function is to care for the home and children, leaving her husband the responsibility of earning a living and providing for the family. Nature has fitted her for this role and here is where she will shine best, in some cases the woman herself may have to become the breadwinner, but generally she will be far happier filling her intended place in life.

Mending a Broken home.

Most marital tangles arise from selfishness, on the part of one or both of the parents . They may try to cover the differences, but older children are not deceived. Usually they have been around long enough to recognize faults on both sides. Infact , never is there a completely innocent party in a dividend home. Serious differences of opinion inevitably lead to discord in the home , regardless of the cause . As far as possible , these should be avoided.

In mending a broken home one must first recognize that the break exists . Refusing to see the problem will only prolong the misery and increase the strain . The mending process can not be accomplished in a day , a week or even a month. Some of the more serious problems may never be solved, particularly if one mate is of an unstable mind an d subject to outbursts of temper and other signs of immature behavior . But many problems can be solved and the strain relieved, provided both parents are willing to forgive and forget . This Is not easy, but it is always well worth trying.

Natural Family

One beautiful day In watched too little brown birds building a nest in a tree.It was the time for mating,the loveliest season of the year; all nature was radiant and beautiful.Green leaves covered the trees; flowers were blooming every where.Fascinated by watched those little birds flitting about,searching for the materials for the materials needed for their nest.

The male bird was very active,bringing all kinds of twigs and grass and other things.He seemed to thoroughly enjoy the task of building a home for his future family. But the Little lady bird was not idle by any means.In fact,she was the one who made many of he decisions,as together they build their nest.

Them something strange began to happen. When the nest was half built, the Little lays evidently decided that the place was not suitable.Some hidden instinct told her that she was building her nest too close to the neighbour's cat! so she tore it all apart and started building again in a safer spot. And regardless of how much her mate protest , she apparently let him know that in this matter her decision must be final.It was his job to feed and protect the family hers to raise the brood.

When the nest was finally completed the little mother took some of her own downy feathers to carpet the floor of the little home.Then she laid three tiny eggs in it,and covered them with the warmth and protection of her own body.What a scene of beauty and peace!

On a branch near-by her mate was perched,singing as if his very throat would burst with pride and melody.He wanted everyone to know that this was his home,his family.Several times each day he took her place on the nest while she flew off for food and rest.

After a few weeks there came a day of great excitement. The young birds were chipping their way through their egg-shells and stepping out into the world for themselves.Of course they were not yet ready to live on their own.They had no feathers.Their beaks were large and ugly,and their mouths were constantly open for food.

All day long, from dawn to dark,those parent birds flew back and forth,bringing food for their hungry youngsters.And how those little ones could eat! they never seemed to be satisfied.They grew rapidly,amid much chirping,and in a few more weeks were ready fo care for themselves.As soon as their feathers were fully grown they were taught to fly, and thereafter they were able to live on their own.

The cycle of life is simple enough in a small bird,but it is delightfully beautiful.The same is true, though in a much broader sense, on the human level.In either case family relationships figure prominently.The creation of a comfortable home in which little ones can be reared is a normal part of life.

Nature can teach us valuable lessons.the young are early trained to take their normal place in life.No longer do we find the older birds trying to make decision for the younger, or to direct their lives.Nor do we find the younger birds waiting around for a "handout" from their parents. When they are fully grown they move out and live their own lives according to the laws of nature.This is evidently what their parents expect them to do.By this simple act they avoid the types of family troubles that distress many men and women Today.

Then sooner our youth learn to face life and make decision for themselves, the more successful they will be in later years.Sensible training must begin Art birth and continue all through childhood and youth.

A human home home is far more complex than a bird's nest,for the young human has many more lessons to learn.That is why he remains with his parents for several years.His physical growth is slower than that of most animals, and his mind develop in proportion to his place in life.